The Attitude Behind the Message
For a relationship to be successful a couple has to rely on communication. While we all have different ways of getting our point across, we have to be aware that our words can turn people off if their not executed properly. Sometimes the way we convey messages to our partner can cause damage to a relationship.
My friend has been feisty and animated since the day we met. For some guys it would be hard to communicate with her, but for her boyfriend he’s use to it. However, in the beginning they did have some trouble. Since he’s a chill, easygoing, and non confrontational person their different personalities would cause a lot of arguments.
When they would argue she would be loud, animated, and say mean things. For a while he didn’t say anything about the way she acted until he one day became tired of it. He couldn’t put up with her actions and words anymore and so he told her how he felt and left it up to her to fix.
No matter what the message is, we have to watch our tone and attitude because it can change the the meaning of what we’re communicating. It doesn’t take a lot for something we’re saying to come off as belittling or disrespectful. So we have to be aware of this or before we start doing and saying things we can’t take back.
This is a great post and message. I know all to well the importance of tone and the manner in which a message is delivered. Growing up my mom used to always say ‘watch your tone’. Back then I didn’t think much of it, but as I grew up I began to see the power and affects that my tone and deliverance of a message could have. I’m just thankful to GOD that I made some changes and became more aware of what I was saying and doing. Our mouths can be weapons if we don’t control or use them correctly.
Plus, not having the right attitude and delivery can cause major issues in a relationship. Personally, I don’t think I could be with a woman like the friend you described. There is only so much I would be willing to take. I’m not a fan of dramatics and confrontations so I would eventually leave that type of situation, but that’s just me. I understand some people are willing to put up with that type of behavior for the sake of the relationship. Personally, I view that as a form of disrespect and I wouldn’t be able to accept it or withstand it.