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Blinded by Love

When we are in a relationship and have a boyfriend or girlfriend people can easily remove themselves from their life. They will stop being around other people just to be with that person. There comes a time to refrain from being a couple.

My first boyfriend and I were almost inseparable when we got together. We went everywhere and if we weren’t together then we were on the phone. This was an everyday thing for us, but after the new relationship feeling wore off we started to get annoyed about being around each other.

I felt like he was always in my space and the little things that he did would annoy me to the point where I would get angry. He was also feeling the same way so we talked about it and came to the conclusion that we couldn’t be together all the time. So then we would have our couple time and then time for everything else.

A couple that spends every minute together is eventually going to get burnt out with seeing that person. A person has to schedule time to do their thing outside of the relationship. Like my friend says, “You have to watch it when you enter a relationship- it’s easy to get catch up, kidnapped, and have people wondering what happened to you.”

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12 comments
don
don

It must've been meant for me to come across this post at this particular point in my life and relationship. Hmm.

Suga Hill
Suga Hill

Great post, I know the feeling, I had an ex that felt he had to come and see me every single day. He started to get under my skin and when I addressed the issue he felt like I was seeing someone else. Their are people that tend to be needy and clingy and he was that. Everyone is entitled to their own space sometimes

shetraces
shetraces

So true, I had to learn this the hard way. I guess you start thinking that every moment counts so much, you don´t want to spend it apart, but at the end of the day you´re pushing friends and family away and it´s not healthy at all. Balance is the key word. And you should never try to guilt-trip your mate bc they want to spend time with other people...missing each other is a good thing!

JSin
JSin

No doubt that too much of anything can lead to disaster. It's all about finding a balance that works for both partners, but that can't be accomplished without communication.

Oh to Be a Muse
Oh to Be a Muse

i like the quote from your friend. when i first started dating my now husband we were very much like that. i didn't want to hang out with anyone but him (i was also 17 at the time). but now i think we have a pretty good balance. :) Please vote for me in the 365 Hangers Style a Shape contest - just click the link and then hit the 'Like' button for my look. Your vote is appreciated Sweet! http://www.365hangers.com/style-a-shape/details.php?id=75

jenndiva
jenndiva

I hope that it was able to help you and give you some things to think about. Relationships can be tricky, so I know that from my experience it helped to have our time together and then time apart. Good luck.

jenndiva
jenndiva

Thanks for sharing your story. I really appreciate it and as you see we have a lot a like with our stories. I can understand wanting to be around someone, but everyday can get annoying. Plus after a while there's nothing to talk about or say. Thanks Suga Hill.

jenndiva
jenndiva

You hit all of the key points with your comments! All I can say is that like you said there has to be a balance of together time, alone time, and time with other people. It's healthy for the relationship and also it keeps things interesting. When both people have different stories and topics that the other doesn't know it makes good conversation. Thank you so much Shetraces for your comment!

sunnydelyte21
sunnydelyte21

I agree with JSin... but I doubt people realize that until its too late. You have to have a life outside of ur relationships. Great post!

jenndiva
jenndiva

I think you are exactly right, there has to be a balance there between time together and a part. When I was young, I didn't know that but now I can definitely see it. I like having my space and I now know that a relationship needs that to stay fresh and not go stale. Thank you as always for stopping by JSin and commenting!

jenndiva
jenndiva

Thank you. My friend has good advice, but always says it in a funny way. I appreciate you sharing your story about you and your husband with us. It's good to know that I'm not the only one that spent a ton of time with a boyfriend before. I will certainly vote for you and I will get the word out on twitter so others can do the same. Thank you Oh to Be a Muse for stopping by!

jenndiva
jenndiva

Thank you Sunnydeltye21! I think that you're right. It's important to know that you can't be together all the time in the beginning. Trust me the last thing one wants is to be annoyed or be annoying to the other person.

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