Over the weekend I was hanging with a friend and she mentioned that she recently read the my dating series. While she liked the topics, she felt like there was a subject I should have covered. So this installment goes out to her.
To give some background to what I am talking about, last month I wrote a series of post about the basic rules of dating that seemed to have gotten lost over the years. My friend just read them and thought that another subject that should have been covered was what happens after meeting that person. Who should make the first call?
Some people see making the first move and calling the other person as a game. They have to wait and play it “cool” by holding out for some time, and then when they do call they seem nonchalant. Well, let me be the first to say that the rule about waiting to call is just a myth and above all it’s a turnoff. There is no need for games, especially in the beginning.
If two people meet and they like one another then they should talk and schedule time to hang out. A person doesn’t have to wait three days to tell someone who they are interested or play hard to get. The best thing to do in the beginning of dating is to be yourself and be honest.
By getting to know one another and leaving the games behind things start off right. Worrying about who should call the other person is not important, the focus need to be for growth to happen from meeting that person. Like momma always says, “It’s not nice to keep people waiting,” and that goes for phone calls too.