Dating

Call Waiting

Over the weekend I was hanging with a friend and she mentioned that she recently read the my dating series. While she liked the topics, she felt like there was a subject I should have covered. So this installment goes out to her.

To give some background to what I am talking about, last month I wrote a series of post about the basic rules of dating that seemed to have gotten lost over the years. My friend just read them and thought that another subject that should have been covered was what happens after meeting that person. Who should make the first call?

Some people see making the first move and calling the other person as a game. They have to wait and play it “cool” by holding out for some time, and then when they do call they seem nonchalant. Well, let me be the first to say that the rule about waiting to call is just a myth and above all it’s a turnoff. There is no need for games, especially in the beginning.

If two people meet and they like one another then they should talk and schedule time to hang out. A person doesn’t have to wait three days to tell someone who they are interested or play hard to get.  The best thing to do in the beginning of dating is to be yourself and be honest.

By getting to know one another and leaving the games behind things start off right. Worrying about who should call the other person is not important, the focus need to be for growth to happen from meeting that person. Like momma always says, “It’s not nice to keep people waiting,” and that goes for phone calls too.

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6 Responses to “Call Waiting”

  1. On December 6, 2010 at 4:01 pm JSin responded with... #

    I agree with you Jen. Leave the games out of it. Just do what feels natural and call when the time feels right. That’s my approach.

    • On December 7, 2010 at 1:09 pm jenndiva responded with... #

      Thank you. I don’t know why some people feel like waiting to call someone makes the situation better. I get that it doesn’t make them look needy or persistent, but it should be natural like you said. If you like the person and it feels right then go for it.

  2. On December 6, 2010 at 7:25 pm Danielle responded with... #

    A ton can happen in three days let me tell you. If someone waits three days to call me back I could possibly have already met someone that moved in a little bit faster so if you wait you could lose out. I agree Jen making people wait is not nice.

    • On December 7, 2010 at 1:12 pm jenndiva responded with... #

      Lol. You are funny and I totally agree with you. With the way my life is right now, if a guy were to wait three days to call me I might forget about them. An if there is someone else that moves in while they are trying to be cool, then they are out of luck.

      There’s a fine line between being too eager and playing games. Waiting three days is playing games.

  3. On February 15, 2011 at 6:38 pm dantresomi responded with... #

    I remember as a bachelor in the 90s, I would discuss with the young lady a time to call back. it makes things easier for everyone. The sooner I found out more about her, the better.

    and yes it was during the time of the beeper

    • On February 16, 2011 at 5:03 am jenndiva responded with... #

      That’s a funny with the beepers at the end, I love that. I agree with you about the more a person finds out about another the better things can be.

      Thank you for the comment!

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