Inside His World
The thing about relationships is that it’s all about timing; when to have that first kiss, say I love you, and meet the other person’s family. An indicator that the relationship is headed in the right direction is meet the other person’s family and friends. It proves that things are serious, but what if that hasn’t happened yet? At what point should we start worrying if we haven’t been introduced to the people in his world?
At work one of my coworkers has been telling me about this guy that she’s been dating for almost a year. She really likes him and talks about how she thinks that their relationship could become something long-term. She has introduced him to her family and friends and even everyone at work. However, she hasn’t met any of his friends and family. So now she’s wondering why he hasn’t and if he feels for her the same way she feels about him.
Meeting the people who are close to a guy is a big step because it’s his way of bringing his girlfriend into the circle. Not only does it show that he cares about the woman, but also about the relationship and the direction that it’s headed. While there isn’t an exact time that this should happen, it does provide insight on who the other person feels about things based on if you’ve met the people close to him.
The only advice I could give my coworker is to talk to her boyfriend and tell him her concerns and feelings. If she doesn’t feel as though she’s being integrated into his world then she has to tell him, because both people have to do that for it to grow. Otherwise, they will always be on the outside looking in.