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Why it’s Hard to Be Superwoman

Have you ever felt like the weight of the world was on your shoulders? Yesterday the call to be Superwoman became too much. I try to do it all and wear all my hats with class and poise. Usually I can handle it, my background in writing with a deadline had helped me thrive under pressure. However, on days when the force becomes too much it seems like everything falls apart. 

So now I’m left wondering how am I or we as women supposed to wear the title of Superwoman? I am only one person and there’s only so many hours in the day. Plus, (and I don’t know if this applies to you) I have moments when I have my own agenda or want me time. So how do we take on the world, keep our corner of the world in order, and be true to ourselves?

The Superwoman Persona

The reason I wanted to write this is because I feel one thing that is lacking in our world is honesty. As I said I look like I have it together on the outside, but behind closed doors I struggle with being me. I second guess myself constantly, wonder if I’ve doing enough, and consider throwing in the towel. It’s a constant battle that we face every day to be at our best and manage.


Our lives consist of playing multiple roles and sometimes that has to happen simultaneously. We’re expected (either by ourselves or others) to do it all without breaking a sweat. Let me be the first to say that it’s unrealistic! I’ve been trying for over 20 years to have it all together, and I’m just as lost as the day I started.

When I look at my responsibilities and compare it to my friends who are moms (especially the single moms) and marvel in wonder. Really and truly I salute you. With my multiple jobs and tight-knit family sometimes it feels like I’m on the verge of a nervous breakdown. So I’ve had to take a hard look at myself and my schedule and decide to make some changes.

Restoring Our Strength

One of the things that’s helps me manage my responsibilities is giving my cares to the Lord. I have to remind myself that God didn’t give me this life to be stressed and worn out. He wants me to enjoy it and place my worries at his feet. Plus, when we depend on the Lord He renews our strength.


Next, I’ve learning to be my own cheerleader instead of my own worst critic. It’s okay to have high expectations of ourselves and want to handle everything, we have to be realistic. Instead of beating ourselves up over what’s not done, let’s be thankful for what we did accomplish. Plus, it’s important to make time for ourselves in our busy schedule.

Lastly, I will recommend (and I’m still working on) is saying no. This advice comes from a good friend who told me just because you can do it doesn’t mean you should. It’s okay to tell people we can’t do something or be somewhere, and we shouldn’t feel guilty. It’s a part of being realistic and not stretching ourselves too thin.

While it’s not always easy being superwoman, I want to encourage you to wear the title proudly. It may not seem like it but you’re doing more than you know and despite the chaos you can handle it. Remember that you have the power to handle what’s on your plate. The source of your Superwoman strength starts with taking care of you.

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8 Responses to “Why it’s Hard to Be Superwoman”

  1. On May 17, 2011 at 4:17 pm sunnydelyte21 responded with... #

    True indeed. Somethings aren’t in our control no matter how hard we want them to be.

    Your not weak because you didn’t get things done. You are made strong to know its okay to ask for help or finish it tomorrow.

    Great post!

    • On May 18, 2011 at 1:09 pm jenndiva responded with... #

      Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it. I’m a perfectionist sometimes about a lot of things so when I do something I like to see it all the way through. I need to work on that and take it down a notch.

      Somedays are just more stressful than others because a bunch of curve balls are hard to deal with. So I have to remember as you said that some things can be done tomorrow.

      Thank you for stopping by!

      • On May 18, 2011 at 6:45 pm sunnydelyte21 responded with... #

        No problem sweetie!! Everytime I come there is always something interesting to read!!

  2. On May 17, 2011 at 4:17 pm Girl In My Own World responded with... #

    So, I was going to blog about something along the lines of this, but for now I will say that sometimes in life it is not about getting EVERYTHING done all at once. There is no way that you can be everything to everyone and then to yourself too. I have been where you are now and what I realized is that you have to take things a little at a time. For instance, if you are overwhelmed yourself then sometimes you have to get off to yourself for a while. Then once you are refreshed you can honestly be a better friend, family member, employee, etc. Sometimes it is okay to be what may be deemed as “selfish” to put yourself and the things that you need to do first so that you are not beating yourself up or in a bad mood later. In order to be fabulous you must take care of you first because if you don’t you will find that you will be run down and not able to fly and soar all around! Learning balance takes time and is something that I am still learning – however, once you get into a groove with what works for you, you will feel so much better! Hope that helps! 🙂

    • On May 23, 2011 at 2:17 am jenndiva responded with... #

      Thank you so much for your advice, it was wonderfully said. It’s hard to see sometimes that I can’t be everything to everyone at the same time, but it true. I have to learn to do what I can and do the rest later. Otherwise I’m just going to run myself into the ground.

      Another point that you brought up that I liked was that I need take time for myself. By doing that I will be able to be a better person to everyone around me. I will work on doing that and keep you posted.

      Thank you for the advice and stopping by!

  3. On May 19, 2011 at 2:58 pm JSin responded with... #

    Good post.

    Don’t push yourself too much. Just manage what you can and take care of the rest at a later time. You don’t have to be Superwoman Jen. lol…Just do all you can, that’s the most people can expect from you.

    • On May 23, 2011 at 2:09 am jenndiva responded with... #

      Thank you JSin. I’m working on getting a little bit done at a time compared to doing everything at once like I would love for things to happen. It’s taking some time to adjust, but I’m getting there.

      Thanks for commenting!


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