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The Reasons Why it’s Hard to be Superwoman

Yesterday the weight of trying to be a superwoman came down upon me. Everyday I strive to do it all and be great at everything I have to do both professional and personal, but sometimes it’s hard to manage it all. While sometimes I manage to do it, other times being superwoman can just be too much. Where do we find the strength to keep being superwoman?

The key to being a superwoman is finding a way to be present in all areas of your life. At work, at home, in your personal relationships everyone wants you to be 100% there. They want you to preform and while you want the same thing, balancing all of the many hats that you wear can become stressful. This brings us to where I am right now, looking for my second wind and wondering why I’m always trying to be superwoman.

I know that a lot of this need to be superwoman comes from wanting to be in control everything. I’m a planner and like to anticipate what’s coming at me and when I can’t I feel as though I failed. This time I’m feeling overwhelmed with work and the demand there, my family wants to see me more, my friends need me, managing living on my own, my personal life, and maintaing a writing career.

I’m learning, slowly, that there’s are a lot of things that are going to happen each day and I can’t control them. I have to find a way to accept that and do what I can. I have to find a way to turn down my perfectionist ways and see that even if I don’t get everything done life goes on. Just because I can’t do it all doesn’t mean I’m less of a woman, or have lost my superwoman strength.

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8 Responses to “The Reasons Why it’s Hard to be Superwoman”

  1. On May 17, 2011 at 4:17 pm sunnydelyte21 responded with... #

    True indeed. Somethings aren’t in our control no matter how hard we want them to be.

    Your not weak because you didn’t get things done. You are made strong to know its okay to ask for help or finish it tomorrow.

    Great post!

    • On May 18, 2011 at 1:09 pm jenndiva responded with... #

      Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it. I’m a perfectionist sometimes about a lot of things so when I do something I like to see it all the way through. I need to work on that and take it down a notch.

      Somedays are just more stressful than others because a bunch of curve balls are hard to deal with. So I have to remember as you said that some things can be done tomorrow.

      Thank you for stopping by!

      • On May 18, 2011 at 6:45 pm sunnydelyte21 responded with... #

        No problem sweetie!! Everytime I come there is always something interesting to read!!

  2. On May 17, 2011 at 4:17 pm Girl In My Own World responded with... #

    So, I was going to blog about something along the lines of this, but for now I will say that sometimes in life it is not about getting EVERYTHING done all at once. There is no way that you can be everything to everyone and then to yourself too. I have been where you are now and what I realized is that you have to take things a little at a time. For instance, if you are overwhelmed yourself then sometimes you have to get off to yourself for a while. Then once you are refreshed you can honestly be a better friend, family member, employee, etc. Sometimes it is okay to be what may be deemed as “selfish” to put yourself and the things that you need to do first so that you are not beating yourself up or in a bad mood later. In order to be fabulous you must take care of you first because if you don’t you will find that you will be run down and not able to fly and soar all around! Learning balance takes time and is something that I am still learning – however, once you get into a groove with what works for you, you will feel so much better! Hope that helps! 🙂

    • On May 23, 2011 at 2:17 am jenndiva responded with... #

      Thank you so much for your advice, it was wonderfully said. It’s hard to see sometimes that I can’t be everything to everyone at the same time, but it true. I have to learn to do what I can and do the rest later. Otherwise I’m just going to run myself into the ground.

      Another point that you brought up that I liked was that I need take time for myself. By doing that I will be able to be a better person to everyone around me. I will work on doing that and keep you posted.

      Thank you for the advice and stopping by!

  3. On May 19, 2011 at 2:58 pm JSin responded with... #

    Good post.

    Don’t push yourself too much. Just manage what you can and take care of the rest at a later time. You don’t have to be Superwoman Jen. lol…Just do all you can, that’s the most people can expect from you.

    • On May 23, 2011 at 2:09 am jenndiva responded with... #

      Thank you JSin. I’m working on getting a little bit done at a time compared to doing everything at once like I would love for things to happen. It’s taking some time to adjust, but I’m getting there.

      Thanks for commenting!


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