Everyday Life

In Our Mind

On an average day it’s said that a brain processes an average of 70,000 thoughts. For some of us those thoughts range from work, money, chores, relationships, and everything in between. Though our thoughts can be about a little bit of everywhere, I wonder in all the chaos how often do we think about ourselves?

Last week I found myself having negative thoughts about myself because there were some things going on that were bad. This is my second week without a job and I’m one week away from moving, so there’s a lot of thoughts running through my head. I just don’t know how I’m going to handle everything or how it’s all going to work out.

I’ve played all sorts of scenarios in my mind, but every single one has a down side. So even though we have an average of 70,000 thoughts, all of mine are about me and if I will make it. With all these thoughts swirling in my head, I started to believe that I would never make it because life wasn’t what I thought it would be.

I’m use to working and being independent so being in a place where that’s no longer the case can make a person feel useless. Thoughts of insecurity, self-esteem, pressure, and stress all start out infrequently then as one focuses on them they become more frequent and more believable. Before we know it we start to doubt ourselves and feel that we will never get past the situation we are in.

Everyday we face a battle that’s going on in our mind concerning what thoughts we except. While its not easy to be positive all the time we have to be aware that our thoughts and feelings determine our day. We have to choose to think positive about ourselves and speak that into ourselves.

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9 Responses to “In Our Mind”

  1. On September 20, 2011 at 2:14 pm sunnydelyte21 responded with... #

    Think happy thoughts!! The right job will come when its the right time. Stay stress free girl…its coming!!

    • On September 20, 2011 at 2:33 pm jenndiva responded with... #

      Thank you! I’m speaking positive phrases and only focusing on positive thoughts. I know that’s the only way to bring what I’m looking for into my life. Plus I want this move to be as stress-free as possible.

      Thank you for the words of encouragement!

  2. On September 20, 2011 at 2:44 pm Chasse responded with... #

    The moment you give in to negative thoughts, its the moment you give up living life. I’m not talking about thinking negative thoughts, we’re human some people forget that. People aim for perfection or get depressed when not meeting a goal, its okay to feel anxious or negative if you fail this is natural. Just got to think positive and be more optimistic no matter how hard your life may get, it can always get better. Believe it.

    • On October 3, 2011 at 11:05 pm jenndiva responded with... #

      I think that you made a great point. We are human so it’s unpractical to think that we will never think a negative thoughts. It’s as you said we have to be more optimistic and not be so hard on ourselves. We may fail sometimes but there is aways another chance for us to shine.

      Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.

  3. On September 21, 2011 at 11:56 am She Traces responded with... #

    I agree, there’s nothing like not having a job to make you feel worthless, but that’s only if you let your job ascribe worth to you as a person. When I was unemployed, I had to make a routine for myself so that I personally felt fulfilled but at first that was hard to do being that the circumstances in which I lost my job were so angering. After I let that go, I was able to spend time doing all the things I found that I didn’t have time for anymore; going through my paper hoarding pile, making scrapbooks, catching up on favorite shows, reconnecting with old friends. So job searching is your priority? Most people will tell you that’s a job in itself. But don’t feel bad for also enjoying your free time, and allowing yourself to relax and indulge.
    This book (Thank you for Firing Me) also helped me out a lot, it has great tips on how to make the best of your ‘in between’ time: http://thankyouforfiringme.org/thank-you-for-firing-me_278.html

    • On December 19, 2011 at 6:20 pm jenndiva responded with... #

      Thank your for recommending this book to me. It’s been really helpful and I like the tips it’s give me so far. The thoughts that we have about ourselves in regards to employed and unemployed can be daunting because it’s something that we are expected to have. Once you graduate you don’t plan to be without a job for months or in and out of different jobs. So there can be a lot of noise and doubt from that.

      Like you said the time away from work can also give us time to get other things done. I’ve definitely been doing that with helping take care of my grandmother and helping my parents with their move. So I’ve kept busy, but I’m definitely ready to get back to work. Thanks again!

  4. On September 21, 2011 at 1:42 pm *J responded with... #

    I can definitely relate. There have been times when I get on myself. It can be harsh sometimes too, but I’ve come to realize that I have to try to remain positive. It can be tough, but I can say that most times I’ve made it through. Some way and some how.

  5. On September 21, 2011 at 4:49 pm GG responded with... #

    Absolutely!! We speak things into existence and things can’t happen in the real world if we don’t believe in it first!

  6. On October 1, 2011 at 7:49 pm LaKesha Womack responded with... #

    Great post… I think it is so important that you are able to be honest with yourself **and to share with the world* because most of the time we try to pretend everything is ok and never deal with that negative self talk so it keeps coming back. We all know that whatever is next for you will be great but it’s most important that YOU know it and then those positive thoughts will continue to manifest.

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