Friends

Finding the Right Girlfriends

The best times that I have are when I’m hanging out with my girls. Those times are so fulfilling, but at the same it’s hard to obtain. For some reason it’s hard to find girlfriends that are like-minded to hang out with.

For a long time I’ve had a problem finding women to hang out with that I had some similarities with. Many of the women that I would be around at the time didn’t think or carry themselves like I did, so I ended up being by myself or with my guy friends. Over time I found four main girlfriends that I associate with, but it took a while.

One of the hardest parts is as much as I wanted a friend I knew that associating myself with just anyone won’t benefit me. Finding a solid friend is daunting because people will come and go or others will not work out. However, the right people will show that they are good friends, trustworthy, and dependable.

There is nothing like having people in one’s life that are reliable. I’ve had a lot of friends come and go, but these ladies have been there for through it all. They were hard to find in the beginning, but I’m glad to have them.

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17 comments
baydiangirl
baydiangirl

I'm definitely happy for you! I'm slowly finding my core group of girlfriends and I'm just being patient during the process.

Ambitious Curls
Ambitious Curls

This is so true! I'm on a quest to find good girlfriends. You have to be careful who you let whisper in your ears. I'm happy you found your friends :)

Childfree Diva
Childfree Diva

I agree - it is so hard to find one, let alone three or four, women that you get along with and are on the same page as you. Everyone has a different definition of what it means to be a friend and what a friend means to them. Many people view a friend as someone they can take-take-take from and feel they never have to give anything back or feel they need to one-up or look down on their friend(s), which hurts the friendship and could cause it to end abruptly. I realize that everyone who comes into your life is not meant to stay, but it does hurt sometimes to have to let people go, as I have had to do. Thankfully, I have some great girlfriends spread out across the states, and I finally met one Sista who lives in the same state as I that I consider a TRUE friend. She and I have so much in common, she's like my twin sister separated at birth. I am grateful for having her here and the ones who live elsewhere.

Monique
Monique

Oh my goodness, I am so jealous of you girls, I lost track with many of my girls. I moved out of state for many years and have since moved back, but have been unable to get in touch with any of them. I miss not having them in my life and for some reason I have not been able to make a connection or should I say, I have not had that sort or relationship or met women who I clicked with. I'm totally missing that kind or relationship in my life, so I say keep on doing what you are doing and please don't take your girls for granted. Those relationships are very hard to come by. I appreciate all of the posts I read on this subject, and thanks again. Genuinely appreciative, Monique

jenndiva
jenndiva

Monique, now that I've moved away and have come back to looking at this post I can relate to you completely. Being miles or states away from your girls is hard because that does change the dynamic of the relationship with the distance. I will say that the internet and trading off on visits has made it easier. You brought up a good point when you said not to take our girls for granted. A good friend is hard to find, so when we come across one we have to cherish them. Hopefully you and I can find some new girlfriends in our new cities. Thank you for coming by, I hope you come back soon.

Couture Carrie
Couture Carrie

So true, darling! Lovely and heartfelt post! xoxox, CC

jenndiva
jenndiva

Thank you, I'm glad that you liked it and I hope you stop by again soon.

Sweet Nectar
Sweet Nectar

This article is on point my circle is one less but I value my friendships. They are my rock and will tell me about myself in a minute. I love that they are so multi-faceted yet we manage to find that comfortable common ground. I love my girls!

jenndiva
jenndiva

That is awesome! I think it's important to have friends that are all different because each one brings something to the table that unique. Having friends like that brings multiple point of views into our life and that's truly valuable.

Alovelydai
Alovelydai

So so true. It takes real effort to find great girlfriends who are more your speed. I have some great ones & I'm not letting them go.

jenndiva
jenndiva

Lol. I'm glad that you have some girlfriends that you can count on. I think that everyone woman is lucky to have one good girlfriend in their life. When you find someone that you can depend on and be real with, then they are worth keeping around. Thank you Alovelydai for reading and commenting on my post! Hope to hear from you again soon.

Maegen
Maegen

Late night phone calls, tears and laughs and everything in between. Everybody needs a friend like that to enrich their lives. Having more than one is always a blessing.

jenndiva
jenndiva

I couldn't have said it better my friend! Have someone that you can share all sorts of emotions with is wonderful, esspecially when you can related to them. I love my guy friends, but there are some things that we can only talk to a woman about and they can understand. I appreciate you stopping by and leaving a comment buddy!

Mayia
Mayia

So true, I use to think it was just me, but now I feel better knowing that its usually just me. Thanks, this made my day.

jenndiva
jenndiva

I'm glad to have made your day. You are not alone in pursuing the right types of women friends. It's not easy to do, but once you find the right ones it's worth it. Thsnk you for your comment and stopping by.

Timikah
Timikah

I had the same Issue and even though I have good girlfriends, but I hope to continue to meet people that will help me grow.

jenndiva
jenndiva

I am with you on hoping to meet people that will help me grow. One of the great things about hanging out with like-minded people is some of the differences. I like what that can bring into a friendship and how that can shape us into better people. Growth is a wonderful thing that we should all embrace. Thank you for the comment and stopping by!

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